We spend an unparalleled amount of energy in attracting romantic partners. We fluff our peacock feathers and like a shiny fishing lure, put ourselves in a favorable position to hook a mate. While certainly sex can be a worthy endeavor in and of itself, most of these romantic relationships are fleeting and impermanent.
When it comes to friendships the prevailing attitude is they are supposed to just happen automagically. Some kind of algorithm of proximity x employment / past circumstance. Despite the minimal effort put into making these friendships, they are often some of the longest lasting bonds we have. Many of us have friends we don’t even really enjoy anymore!
While I like a good game of Yahtzee as much as the next lad, deciding who shares a prevailing amount of my social time based largely on chance is too great a gamble. There are certain people out there who will never touch your genitals, that will nonetheless challenge you, inspire you, and fill a lifetime with laughter and adventure. Those people may not come to you, you may have to go find them. You may have to make yourself an interesting enough person to challenge and inspire them. You may have to go outside your comfort zone of usual haunts. You will definitely have to be confident and fulfilled enough not to need them. But when you find those true brothers and sisters of the way, there are very few things more rewarding on this earth.”